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Things I do that I believe help my babies sleep better

I’ll begin by saying that I am in no shape or form an expert. Far from it. I’m probably just lucky that both Clark and Oliver are, for the most part, great sleepers. By two months they were both sleeping about 6-7 hours a night, waking up for one feeding in the early morning and usually a couple more hours of sleep right after.

All of these tips I have read throughout the internet world. There are a billion of opinions out there, these are just what I’ve tested myself and thought to be the most helpful for me.

No complete silence, ever

Since the day we brought Clark home, I’ve kept the tv running at night. It’s not loud, just barely audible. Just a nice little bit of background noise that also gives me some light for night feedings and something to watch.

Since Oliver was born my nightly binge show has been Parks and Recreation. It’s nice to have a familiar go-to program to have playing. When I went through the frequent feedings with Clark, all we had access to in the bedroom were local channels! I remember groggily looking at the tv, trying to figure out why there was an old man sitting behind a desk talking to me at 3am. I love that we have Hulu now and I can at least have a bit of a giggle when I’m awake.

The no silence regime also goes for the daytime as well. Music or tv always fills the house. This is especially nice right now because Ollie usually sleeps right through whatever craziness Clark is involved in! I can also go about my business as usual and not have to worry about clinking a dish or two.

Feeding on-demand

There are always several feeding close to bedtime. I have to get that baby belly good and full! A feeding schedule has never worked out for me, feeding on-demand is a must. I’m not much on schedules at all, actually. But that’s besides the point. For this reason, I usually try to drink more water and snack on almonds in the evenings. I don’t know if it actually helps, but I know it doesn’t hurt and I at least feel like I’m producing more milk.

Full disclosure; 98% of the time I end up breastfeeding Ollie to sleep. I’ve read many things telling me it’s bad… But I just don’t care. It worked well for Clark and it never led him to not being able to comfort himself. Even after he stopped breastfeeding, (and he was the one who made that decision! two weeks before he turned one he completely lost interest. I was a bit offended and a bit relieved!), I would give him a bottle of Similac Go and Grow before bed. This did a good job of signifying that it was the end of the day and most importantly, fill that belly! He loved it!

Lights out

Seems obvious, but I feel like this really helps distinguish that it’s now time to settle down. Also worth noting that naps are taken in normal bright rooms, I’ve never tried to darken rooms during the day for a nap. I feel it’s important that we get into bed, turn on the tv, and turn off the light for the last feeding. It’s usually a quick process and I can gently lay Ollie in his bassinet and pass out (or lay down and look at my phone and enjoy a bit of me time, of course)

It’s really what works with your life and your schedule. Everyone is going to be different and have to do different things. Whatever works for you! Don’t let “experts” make you feel like you’re doing something wrong. They would probably faint if I told them the time I put Clark and Ollie to bed. But it works for us right now. And we are all happy and healthy! And that’s what is important!

 


 

Lifestyle

A year later…

I have really gotten off track with this blog. I began almost a year ago and it just did not take off. A lot has happened in that year though. I intended to write about life with my husband Thomas raising our son Clark and leaving my job to become a full time caregiver to my father with lewy body dementia. Unfortunately, just six months after leaving my job and one month after starting this blog, my father passed away.  But let me rewind a little and tell you a bit of the story I had originally intended on sharing.

My mother passed away in 2004 of cancer, she was my best friend. I was only 21 when she passed, this left just me and Dad. We had never really been close and there was always a lot of awkwardness. I regret that we never took any steps to become closer. I suppose it was just easier not to. So, it was a complete shock in 2015 to receive a call from Dad begging me to move in with him. I guess I should have known this time would come, he was 81 after all, and his health had just taken a turn. I was nearly 9 months pregnant with Clark. We had to make some frantic decisions and the best and really only option that I could live with was to move back to my childhood home. Never thought that would happen!

We stayed in Nashville long enough for Clark to be born as planned with my OB, while an amazing cousin of mine watched after Dad until we could get our jobs transferred and everything packed. And that was that. Life changed not only from having our first baby, new jobs and taking care of Dad in his space that we now had to share. (THAT was a struggle, especially at first.)

It was crazy and emotional and it was possibly the hardest 2 years of my life. I will probably write other posts about events that happened. I’ve been agonizing over this post because there’s so much and it’s still hard to process it all.

My life is a bit quieter now. We’re back in Nashville, in a home we love. There’s a new edition to the family, Oliver, whom we love and feel so blessed to have. I’ve continued to be SAHM because it makes the most sense for many reasons.

I’m ready to start my blog again. I enjoy documenting my life, I love connecting with other moms, I love the internet and all the cool things I can write about and share with you!

That’s all for now. Thanks for reading and please continue to check back for more!